7 years ago I fell in love. Road the newly wed train, fought through the first year, learned more about my husband and decided after 4 years that we wanted to have our first child. Unexpectedly got pregnant with our second child and survived her newborn stage and life is finally settling again... in order for us to find out who we are as a couple.
I have been thinking about this a lot. When we have to have tough conversations things come up, but I think its important for us to have these tough conversations even when the going isn't tough... we should be pursuing our marriage all the time.
This looks different for every marriage, and I honestly don't know what this looks like for us. Finding balance between being new parents of 2 kids, and working, and just you time and together time... there are so many plates to keep in the air its ridiculous. We have to go through the daily routine, get up, get dressed, go to work, get home, time with kids, TV, dinner, bed... and do it all again. We have to do the extra work to pursue our love for each other. Sometimes this will mean a hard conversation, maybe just uncomfortable, and mainly just being sure to remind the other that you love and appreciate the things they do every day.
I am at the point where I am excited to find out what this looks like for us. Pursuing my marriage, getting to know us better. Falling in love every day for the rest of our lives. Showing our children what loving parents look like, setting a good example for failure with forgiveness and success with celebration.